The fact that indeed it is extremely hard to keep interacting with
a loved one who is battling a terminal illness. But to see through
the eyes of their Dad or Grandpa that during this time the love they have
actively shown is magnified in the heart of the one who is sick. Along with the
fact that its is very selfless to keep actively loving that person. I know they
say everyone grieves differently and I do believe this, of course, we are all
different. But I also believe that how we handle this grief, as in denial or
acceptance of the situation. Or How we process this grief as in keeping
distance or jumping in with both feet and staying connected. The difference we
choose will determine our reward or our blessing from this or any journey we
travel in life. But to go back to being selfless in this journey of a loved one
rather it be family or friend with a terminal illness, I want to share boldly
that what is received by that loved one no matter how large or small the act of
love is just simply by being there by
message...letter...pictures...cleaning...opening your home up for a
dysfunctional crazy visit ( lol )...anonymous gift...treating them the same as
if they are not terminal at times...talking about their needs and health and
then follow up with talking about deer hunting or racing as if it is just
another normal day (lol). Fulfilling your normal responsibilities in
relationship to this person, ALL of this is magnified in the hearts as a magnified love to
the person whom is ill. Not to mention the magnified love felt by the caregiver or family of the person who is
ill. Many of you may already know but have not been able to put it into words,
or maybe you think it is just a feeling you feel but I am going out to say if
we are made in the image of God and I do believe this than I do believe we are
capable and are meant to feel the extreme love that He has for us. I am not
saying that we can begin to experience Him at His level. But what I am saying
is that as we are selfless and reach out to someone who is hurting and grieving
their own loss, isolated and lonely which could be experienced as or
interpreted as rejection what I am saying is...What we give selflessly becomes
magnified to the receiver because only with Christ love we have received can we
be truly selfless in our act. I have to admit I get accused of using a lot of
words trying to explain myself or anything for that matter as I have done here.
I hope the original message is not lost. Which is in short (lol) see if I can
keep it short (lol) It is easy to enjoy a day that is sunny with just the right
wind everyone smiling and playing together. It is easy to spend a weekend
together with no misunderstandings and everything running smooth and we
remember these days fondly and are driven to make them happen on a regular
basis. But even though theses times have happened they are few and far between.
Everyone's expectations rule and ruin our everyday interactions. When we are in
a selfless mindset which of course has to be a core value (a heart condition)
our expectations are as low as they can go because we are expecting nothing in return. Just note this of
course, there is a balance, I am not talking about allowing abuse. I just want
to note the abuse because in light of your experience in life you will define the words "expecting nothing in
return" through your own window of life and this is of course where your
journey is different than mine different than everyone and we allow God and His
word and Holy Spirit to guide us through every bit of knowledge we gain. So to sum all this up to The little things we experience during this time in our lives are magnified because as we have experienced for different reasons this chapter in life brings isolation and your world seems very small. You can be surrounded by crowds of people yet still feeling lonely. Only by people knowing you and having dialog or interaction BACK and FORTH does the isolation go away. I guess in years past we or I should say I am guilty of taking for granted the interactions of so many great people, friends and family in our lives. Now that time, travel, location, finances and illness has created a isolation from this group of people it has helped me to see how important all those interactions were to me and my quality of life. Do not believe the lie or let anyone try to fool you we do NEED each other in good times and you are so much more needed in those bad times. Though the hidden blessing is when a loved one is gone they leave you with the riches of the wonderful blessing to have taken the journey right along side them. Riches no economy can take from you...nobody can take from you. Greater than any 401K plan.
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